The Budge Porter Story Comes Home
Oct 25, 2012 11:31AM
By Leo Adam Biga
What he’s never lost is determination and, remarkably, a positive outlook. It’s what helped him build a successful stockbroker career, woo and marry his college sweetheart, and start a family when many doubted he could do those things. He and his wife, Diane, are parents to three children.
His will has continued carrying him through recent setbacks.
“Every step of our lives we’ve been told this can’t be done,” says Budge. “We have the character between the two of us, working together with great friends and family, to beat all those odds…”
“Disappointments are not foreign to us,” Diane says. “There were many hopeless feelings and times of despair through all this, but I think so often what’s saved us is that you get to the point where you’re either going to laugh or cry, and we’ve chosen always to laugh. You kind of know in your heart of hearts it’s always going to work out, and it always does. It’s like you’ve got to throw it up to God or whatever and just say, ‘Whatever happens, it’s going to work out, and we will survive.’”
That indefatigable spirit is what’s motivated friends and well-wishers to build a completely barrier-free home for this never-say-die warrior and his family. The nonprofit Budge Porter Project is a volunteer, donation-fueled effort led by Omaha home designer-builder Brad Brown, whose company Archistructure has supervised construction of the rustic ranch-style home at 13522 Corby Street. The home is expected to be completed by year’s end.
“Budge has got this captivating spirit about him,” says Brown. “You look at a person who’s been dealt what some feel is a bad hand, and you might expect they’d get bitter. If anything, Budge has turned it around and looks at life as every day is a blessing and an opportunity. I don’t think it started off that way, but it’s led him to a sense of inner peace.
“He’s a very open and caring person. When you’re around him, you feel like a breath of fresh air.”
The 1,900-plus square-foot home includes an elevator, a therapy pool, a tracking-lift system, ramps, and various features built at wheelchair level and wherever possible, subtle and aesthetically pleasing. Those are big-ticket items the Porters could never afford themselves, but donations in excess of $120,000 have purchased them.
“Budge has got this captivating spirit about him. You look at a person who’s been dealt what some feel is a bad hand, and you might expect they’d get bitter. If anything, Budge has turned it around and looks at life as every day is a blessing and an opportunity." - Brad Brown of ArchistructureSubcontractors and suppliers have given time and materials. Consolidated Kitchens and Fireplaces owner Sam Marchese donated all the cabinets and countertops. He also co-signed Porter’s home loan and hosted an August 15 fundraiser. Steve Reeder gifted the lot.
Accepting help doesn’t come easily for Porter, who hails from a long line of orchard and farm owners. They’re a tough, independent lot. His father and grandfather both played at Nebraska. When Budge and brother Scott carried on the football legacy there, the school had its first and only three-generation athletic family.
“He feels somewhat embarrassed and undeserving,” says Brown, “because he’s always made it on his own. I told him, ‘This is a hand-up, not a hand-out, and it’s something these guys are tickled to give back.’ It makes us all feel so good.”
To customize the home to Budge’s specific needs, Brown had to ask personal questions and view Budge in intimate situations. Diane says Kent Pavelka’s public relations company made a video documenting what Budge contends with daily.
“I looked at Kent and Sam and Brad, and they were all crying,” says Diane. “They didn’t realize what the simple act of getting in and out of bed is for Budge. He’s so good about downplaying all the stuff that goes with his injury, and he doesn’t want people feeling sorry for him. But I’ve often said if people really knew what it takes to be him every day, it’d be very hard to keep positive because it’s exhausting. A lesser man would not handle it as well as he has.”
The experience gave Brown a deeper appreciation for Budge’s “courage” and bonded the two men even more. “We were really good friends, but we’re definitely brothers now,” says Budge.
The Porters have always managed dealing with the challenges of paralysis, but then Budge lost big in the 2000 stock market crash, which also cost him many clients similarly hard-hit. Osteoporosis forced him to retire in his mid-50s and go on disability.
A stretch of the Papio Creek behind the family’s previous home eroded, causing such severe damage to the property the home’s value plummeted. Health scares resulted in long, expensive hospitalizations. Finally, Budge swallowed his pride and filed for bankruptcy. The family gave up their home. Getting a loan and finding a new place to live proved daunting.
It seemed like more than one family could bear. “I don’t like to make excuses,” Budge says.
He’s heartened by how others have responded to their plight. “We’ll never be able to repay all these people other than just to tell them we’re forever grateful. We’re rich beyond compare with friends. We intend to be good stewards of these benefits.”
Budge views the home as “a legacy” for Diane and the kids when he’s gone. He hopes to inspire and assist others through the Budge Porter Project.
“I would love to see us form a foundation to raise future monies to help others in need along these same lines. There’s a lot of people far worse off than us, and we feel for them and pray for them and we just hope they’re as fortunate someday to have the type of friends we’re blessed with to give them a hand.”
Donations are still being accepted and may be made at budgeporter.bbnow.org.
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